In October after discovering my father’s name and photograph I met my mom for dinner to share with her I found my father. Armed with the printed Ancestry results, articles on the family, and a photo of my dad, I waited for her to arrive. Not realizing the power of Ancestry, I hadn’t thought to mention to her in August that I had sent my DNA in to a national organization to confirm my nationality. Needless to say, this conversation would come as a shock to her.
In the past, when we discussed my dad, my mom would, embarrassingly, only tell me what she believed his first name was but she could not recall his full name only that it was a very long, Hawaiian name. Concerned that perhaps this one-time encounter may not have be consensual I needed her to confirm exactly what happened. I had no intention of introducing someone into my life, or bringing him back into her life, if the circumstances were negative.
I wish I could have photographed my mom’s face when I showed her a picture of my dad. With tears in her eyes and a smile on her face she looked into my eyes and said, “yes this is your Father.” Her next reaction…”when do we get on a plane so you can meet him?”
Her support and consistent encouragement to reach out to my dad was steadfast. Calling her to let her know I spoke to my dad on the phone certainly pleased her. I haven’t shared much yet about my biological Mother but she is a truly amazing woman. She has an inner strength I now recognize in myself as a reflection of her.
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